The Split Soul: Finding
the ‘Me’ Between the ‘Mummy’ and the ‘Manager’
There is a specific kind
of silence that exists at 5:00 AM. It is the only hour of the day when the soul
isn't being pulled in two opposite directions. In this stillness, I am not a professor
preparing a digital lecture, nor am I a mother searching for a lost pair of
school socks. I am simply me.
But as soon as the sun
rises, the split begins.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=msU2sTHPVsk
The Great Tug-of-War
For many of us, the ‘middle’
of our career coincides exactly with the most demanding years of motherhood. It
is a biological and professional collision. On one side, you have the ‘Managerial’
self—decisive, intellectual, and driven. On the other, the ‘Mummy’ self—soft,
patient, and tethered to a small human who thinks you are the entire world.
I am often asked how I
manage it all, but the truth is, I don’t walk this path alone. I am blessed
with a husband who doesn't just ‘help’—he partners. He is the silent pillar who
respects my professional fire as much as my role as a mother, reminding me that
even a strong woman deserves a shoulder to lean on. Without his hand in mine,
the tug-of-war would be a lonely battle; with him, it is a shared journey.
The Realization: Time is
a Thief, but Love is a builder
As I look at my daughter
in Junior KG, I realize how fast the clock is ticking. Time flies. One
day they are toddlers, and the next, they are grown. This realization brings a
different kind of strength.
Strength isn't about perfection. It is about the determination to show up every day. It is about the hard work of building a career while nurturing a human being. Your ‘Split Soul’ isn't a sign of weakness; it is a sign of your immense capacity to love and lead simultaneously.
A Message to all Women on
This Women's Day
To every woman reading
this or watching this: I see you. I see the woman who stays up until
2:00 AM because she spent the evening being ‘Mummy.’ Please remember: Hard
work, determination, and love are the threads that weave a life of purpose.
Don't be afraid of the
tired eyes or the busy schedule. They are marks of a life fully lived. You are
a force of nature. Time flies, but the legacy of your strength will remain.
As you navigate your own path, remember these words:
"Yun hi chala chal
rahi, yun hi chala chal rahi... Kitni haseen hai ye
duniya, phoolon se bhari..."
(Keep walking, traveler,
keep moving forward... How beautiful is this world,
filled with flowers waiting for you.)
"Tu chal, tere
wajood ki samay ko bhi talaash hai."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F48StoGuBIA
The New Strength
A woman who navigates
this split is not "broken" in two; she is expanded. We are stronger
precisely because we know how to switch from the digital world to the physical
world, from the intellectual to the emotional, in a heartbeat.
Happy International
Women's Day
let’s celebrate the women
in the "middle." We aren't just managing careers or raising children;
we are doing the hardest work of all: holding onto ourselves.
Let us continue to find
the ‘Me’ in the middle of the beautiful chaos.
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